Ditch the Diet and Lose Weight

Posted by on Mar 17, 2013 in Body image | 0 comments

Ditch the Diet and Lose Weight

The Weight of The Scale

For most of my life I have judged my self-worth based on my weight, and my weight alone.

I weigh too much, therefore I am fat and that’s why no one loves me.

I am always trying to lose weight. I am constantly thinking about what to eat and what not to eat. I have a love hate relationship with my closet and sometimes getting dressed is the most stressful and painful part of my day.

Recently, on my enlightened journey towards true health and happiness I have discovered that I have let the scale determine my success at achieving a healthy body image.

Every time I get on the scale to weigh myself one of two things usually happens. 1. I am in a great mood and feel good about myself because I have lost weight or 2. I am in a terrible funk for the entire day (or more) because I have not lost weight (this sometimes leads to self-sabotage or lack of motivation)

I decided to challenge this.

I decided to quit weighing myself, cold turkey. Not allowing myself to get on the scale, especially on days when I knew it wouldn’t reflect what I wanted it too.

Here is What I learned…

I Am In Tune

I am so in tune with my physical body that I don’t need the scale to tell me if I have lost or gained weight. When I try on my clothes, and they feel too tight, or don’t fit at all I know I have gained weight and vice versa.

Measuring My Success

Just because the scale doesn’t say I have lost weight doesn’t mean my body hasn’t changed. I can determine my success at achieving a healthy body image by the way I feel when I am being active or by how I feel in my clothes.

If I am unhappy with how I feel I will be even more determined to want to change it no matter what the scale says.

Work In Progress

Even after going weeks without weighing myself and feeling better about how I look and feel, I am still curious to see what the scale says. I decide to weigh myself, even though I already know that it is not exactly where I’d like to be. This is when I know I am a work in progress, just like everyone else.

Worthy Of Love

No matter what size I am I am enough. Even if I am overweight, or not in my ideal body image, I am still worthy of love. I must practice loving and accepting myself everyday.

This is perhaps the most beautiful discovery I have made! Seems kind of obvious, huh? Maybe not. If you have ever struggled with what the scale says I encourage you to think about how you determine your self worth. How do you judge yourself?

If you want to learn how to say goodbye to the scale forever, then join me on March 24th, at the Center For Aligned Healing in Chappaqua, NY. We will explore our relationship between our bodies and the food we eat. You will be able to discover how to get off the emotional eating roller coaster and live in a body you love! Check Here for more information and registration details.

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Break Free From Emotional Eating

Posted by on Mar 4, 2013 in Body image, Mindfulness, Nourishing Yourself | 0 comments

Break Free From Emotional Eating

For many years I was afraid to tell my story. I didn’t want anyone to know “my big secret”. Even now, I have a hard time telling people that I am a recovering food addict and compulsive overeater. Recently I have come to understand that in order to fully heal myself I must step into the fear and expose my truth.

The truth is, that at the age of 18, I left High School morbidly obese feeling ashamed and frightened that no one would love me because of how I looked. My “weight issue” has been with me for as long as I can remember. At an early age, I developed a love/hate relationship with the scale and determined my self-worth by the number that it reflected back to me.

I never felt good enough and lived a fearful life.

This past year I have been on a quest of self-discovery and healing. Throughout my journey, I have learned, that true health is achieved when we create complete harmony with the mind, body and spirit.

Instead of feeling like there is something wrong with me because I was overweight or FAT I began to understand that in order to truly break free I needed to step into the fear, let go of the past and love and accept myself just as I am.

So how did I finally break free from emotional eating and lose over 130lbs?

Awareness

The first step in breaking free from any negative pattern is to simply be aware that it exists. When we learn to cultivate awareness around what we do and how we do it, we are connecting with our inner guide, higher power, spirit. When we bring conscious awareness to all the little things, everything will fall into place.

Feel

After you become aware of your thoughts and actions, focus on how you feel. Stay with the feelings. Don’t run from them or turn to food for comfort (or any other un-healthy habit). Know that these feelings will pass no matter how shitty they make you feel.

Be Positive

Positive thoughts lead to positive actions. Ask yourself how do I WANT to feel? If you want to feel good then think good thoughts. When you put positive thoughts into the universe and follow through with positive actions you will see positive results. Begin each day with a loving positive thought about yourself and your life! “I accept myself and create peace in my mind and heart.”

 Tune In

Tune in with your body, listen to what it tells you! Once you learn how to tune in with what your body wants, not your mind, you will be better able to understand how to cultivate nourishment for yourself and slowly break free from emotional eating. A very powerful and essential tool I teach my clients; is to tune in with themselves through meditation.

Let Go

In the process of letting go you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself”- Deepak Chopra

When we hold onto to our past we are unable to experience the here and now. Your higher self (the person who you truly are) only lives in the present moment. If we stay “stuck” in our past or only focus on our future we are not honoring our true selves. As we learn to let go of what no longer serve us, we open up to new possibilities and begin to receive what we need.

Nourish Yourself

Make a list of all the things that nourish you and start to do them. This can be the food you eat, the relationships you have, or the work that you do. The more you add nourishment into your life from sources other then food, the more likely you are not to turn to food for comfort (or any other unhealthy habits).

 

Moment by moment we have a new opportunity to change what we think, believe, and feel about ourselves. Every time you catch yourself saying something negative about yourself, acknowledge it, observe it, and then challenge it. Begin your day with a positive affirmation “I love life and life loves me”. Repeat as needed throughout the day. Our bodies are the only eternal relationship we have. If we can’t trust, love, and be honest with ourselves then how can we love, trust, or be honest with another?

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Letting Go

Posted by on Feb 14, 2013 in Body image, Mindfulness | 0 comments

Letting Go

 

 

 

 

 

 

I used to weigh 300 lbs.

I have always felt fat and insecure.

I used to think that I am not enough because of my size and unworthy of love.

I have come to discover that these feelings of being unworthy protect me. Protect me from getting hurt, rejected, judged.

Judged by others. Judged by myself.

 

Why aren’t I skinny?

Why aren’t I wealthy?

Why aren’t I successful?

What are my talents?

Where is my reward?

Where is my love?

As I look inward, really deep down in the well, I find, all that I seek I already am.

I am LOVE. LOVE is all that I am.

If I focus on lack there will never be enough.

This is hard work. This is a struggle. This is the journey. This is how to break free from emotional eating!

This is enough. I am enough. I am worthy of LOVE.

 

What are you?

 

 

 

 

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Remember The Magic

Posted by on Feb 9, 2013 in Mindfulness | 0 comments

Remember The Magic
And above all, watch with glittering eyes the whole world around you because the greatest secrets are always hidden in the most unlikely places. Those who don’t believe in magic will never find it.- Roald Dahl

 

 

 

The universe has a funny way of showing us of what we need to remember.

Today I remember the magic.

Magnificent snow.

Beautiful white crystals on trees.

Snowy days and missed school.

Snow Angels and snow balls.

Fortress of snow and playing with friends.

Hot Chocolate and red finger tips.

 

I am grateful for this time to be here in this space. To reflect on how much I love remembering the magic of childhood.

We are never too old to embrace our inner child. To let them feel the magic. To let them be themselves.

A child has a way of knowing the truth and embracing life. Today I honor that child in me.

 

The one who wants to play in the snow. Make snow angels and throw snowballs. The one who wants to take a warm bath and drink hot chocolate. The one who feels like hibernating and not doing anything at all.

 

Embrace the stillness. Embrace the magic. Embrace your inner child. What do they want to do?

 

 

 

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Holiday Preparation

Posted by on Nov 28, 2012 in Health Tips | 0 comments

Holiday Preparation

Now that Thanksgiving has passed and the month of November comes to a close I want to focus this week’s blog on holiday preparation. It is officially holiday crunch time. Holiday party invitations are being sent, gift-giving season has begun and our stress levels are at an all time high!

 

One way to combat holiday stress and anxiety is by being prepared.

Often times stress can be caused by all the “to do’s” and “what if” scenarios. Our mind tends to become super active and our daily tasks seem overwhelming. When we prepare we worry less about running out of time and we are able to focus on staying present. The more present we are the less we worry about the “what if” situations. 

If you find yourself anxious and overwhelmed during this time of year, I encourage you to find ways to prepare during the holiday season.

First make a to do list of all your tasks. This should include everything from going to work and eating meals, as well as, buying gifts and attending parties.

Next prioritize your list. What are the things you must do? What are the things you should do? What are the things you want to do?

Then sit down with your calendar and actually schedule your to do’s. Be realistic about what can be accomplished in the amount of time that you have. Make sure to schedule things by priority and include things you want to do, especially self-care practices.

Finally stick to your calendar. If you schedule time to buy gifts then only buy gifts during that time. If you can’t get it all done at once, then schedule it again in your calendar at another time.

Here are some more holiday preparation tips:

  • Only plan on going to parties that you really want to, don’t be afraid to say NO to people
  • When attending a holiday party find out if you can bring a healthy dish
  • Never go to a holiday party on a empty stomach
  • Have a plan when attending a party: What foods are you going to avoid?
  • If worried about holiday shopping do it WAY in advance or online

What are some ways you are going to prepare around the holidays? Start NOW. Feel free to reach out for support and leave a comment below, I love to hear from you!

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Cultivate Gratitude

Posted by on Nov 20, 2012 in Health Tips, Mindfulness | 0 comments

Cultivate Gratitude

Thursday is Thanksgiving. Instead of focusing on food and football, let’s spend the day focusing on gratitude! As we enter this holiday season, we can help alleviate our stress by cultivating an attitude of gratitude.

According to an article from the New York Times: Cultivating an “attitude of gratitude” has been linked to better health, sounder sleep, higher long-term satisfaction with life, less anxiety and depression, and kinder behavior toward others, including romantic partners.

Right now in the tri-state area people are suffering. They are without homes and essential belongings. They have been forced to start over. This past month I have been focusing on gratitude. I am grateful that I am safe with a roof over my head and plenty of food to eat. I am grateful for my family, friends and loved ones who support me no matter what. I am grateful for you because you allow me to have a space to share these words!

As the holiday season officially starts, now is the perfect time to cultivate a daily gratitude practice. It will not only improve your health, but enhance your life.

Gratitude can help you improve:

  • Your ability to handle stress
  • Your self-esteem
  • Your immune system
  • Your mood
  • Your relationships

One way to practice gratitude is by starting a gratitude journal. This is something I recommend for my clients to do on a daily basis. I am always amazed at how they find this simple, yet extremely powerful tool to be so completely life changing.

All you need is a notebook or a journal. Write down 3-5 things in the journal everyday that you are grateful for, it’s as simple as that!

I like to do this at the end of the day so that I can reflect on all my positive achievements from the day. This helps me cultivate an attitude of gratitude and a positive mindset. You can write the same thing down everyday for a while till you get the hang of it.

It would look something like this:

  •  I am grateful for taking care of my body by going to yoga today
  • I am grateful for nourishing myself with healthy food today
  • I am grateful for taking time out for myself today and cooking
  • I am grateful for sleeping in today because I didn’t have to go to work
  • I am grateful for having a family that I love and that loves me

As always I’d love to hear from you! Feel free to leave a comment below and tell me what you are grateful for.

 

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Eat Mindfully

Posted by on Nov 14, 2012 in Mindfulness, Nourishing Yourself | 0 comments

Eat Mindfully

 

As you know I have been focusing this month’s blog on reducing holiday stress and preventing weight gain. 

One of the most important tools that I teach my clients is how to eat mindfully.

This is especially important this time of year, when our bodies like to hold onto fat and we are under extra holiday stress!

Before I discuss the difference between mindless eating vs. mindful eating, I think it is important to note that it is completely normal for us to store fat this time of year. As the weather gets colder our bodies naturally want to have an extra layer of protection. Don’t beat yourself if you find that you are making an effort to change the way you look, but don’t seem to notice a change in your weight.

So what is mindful eating vs. mindless eating?  

Eating mindlessly is when we barely taste our food or when we eat too fast. It is also means waiting too long to eat or eating emotionally, not because we are hungry.

Eating mindfully means we are paying attention to what we are eating. We are aware of all our sensations and what is happening in our body. It also means eating without distractions and enjoying our food! Eating mindfully is all about how you experience the food in your body. The way the food looks. The way the food smells. The way it tastes and the texture of your food.

It never stops amazing me at how much this simple act of enjoyment can make a huge impact in our path to healthy eating and living. When we learn how to eat mindfully we learn how to understand our relationship between the food we eat and how it makes us feel.

This can often be the missing ingredient in cultivating a nourishing relationship with our mind, body & spirit.

Here are some simple ways to cultivate a mindful eating practice…

  1. Breathe before you eat and really soak in the aromas of the food
  2.  Say a word of thanks to where the food came from and how it was prepared
  3.  Eat without distractions (that means no T.V. cell phones or email)
  4.  Experience the food (how does it smell, what does it taste like, what does it feel like in your mouth)
  5. Chew slowly and savor every bite

I encourage you to try eating mindfully at least once this week. See what the experience is like for you. Maybe you’ll gain a better understanding of when you are full. Maybe you’ll learn to appreciate your food more. Maybe you’ll find the entire experience super painful and never want to try it again. Whatever it does or does not do for you, one thing I know for sure is, that it can help you become more aware of your relationship between food and your body. After all that is our goal in cultivating nourishment.

 

 

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