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To get something you’ve never had, you must be willing to try something you’ve never done”- Thomas Jefferson
Summer is almost here! I know technically it is till a few weeks away, but the sun is shinning, the birds are singing and the flowers are finally blooming! Do you notice how everything seems promising? The longer days give you more energy, making you feel like it’s possible to achieve all your desires and dreams. Why not harness this energy, ride the wave and try something new?
Throughout the year we live at an intense pace (physical, emotional and mental), and we often get stuck in routine, either for the sake of efficiency or out of fear of unfamiliar territory. The lack of variety in doing the same things over and over stagnates not only our minds, but also our bodies and hearts. Are you hesitant to break your routine? Fear and excitement have the same physiological expression in our bodies; it is our mind that classifies the feeling as either positive or negative. So the next time you consider a change in routine and your mind says “scary!” see if you can re-frame it as “exciting!”
What is something you have never done before or that you have wanted to do for a long time? Choose your own adventure: organize a road trip, take a dance class, do some exotic traveling or set a goal for a new personal challenge. Or try something simple, like playing tag with your kids or reading in the sunshine. Maybe it’s time to discover a new vegetable dish or to visit a new town, restaurant or beach.
Whatever adventure calls to you, use this time of year to make it happen and enjoy your life. Increasing new experiences and excitement in your life can decrease your dependence on artificial stimulants like caffeine and sugar, leading to more vibrant health. Watch out for massive improvements in physical well-being, mental acuity and motivation. As always, I’d love to hear from you, so be sure to write to me and tell me what new experiences you’ve tried this month!
True kindness has no calories. True kindness is deciding right now that you deserve to respect and honor yourself — here, today, no matter what. When you make your food choices with that sort of kindness, your whole life becomes a feast.”- Geenen Roth
We all know the basic rules to being healthy and losing weight. Eat less, exercise more and incorporate more whole foods into out diet (or at least that is the simple way to look at it). So why is that the weight loss industry is a billion dollar business? Companies spend millions and millions luring you to try the latest diet (low carb, high protein, low fat, no fat, you name it) with promises that this will (finally!) be the solution—your shortcut to a thinner body.
The ironic thing is that most diets set us up for failure from the beginning. Our culture touts diet pills, celebrity workouts, convenience foods and trendy diets to help us achieve our desired weight, but these quick-fix solutions have backfired. America’s population has reached its highest weight in history. The World Health Organization estimates that nearly two-thirds of all American adults are overweight and 34% of Americans are clinically obese.
Diets don’t work because each person is unique, with different needs based on gender, age, ancestry and lifestyle; how could one diet be right for everyone? Diets don’t work because they are extreme solutions. Diets don’t work because they are too restrictive.
Diets by nature require discipline and restriction at levels that are unsustainable by a healthy human body. Most people are disconnected from why they gain weight and see diet as the only culprit. For example, ignoring or discounting emotions is often the first thing to cause weight imbalances.
We all have excuses. The most common ones being, I don’t have time, it’s never going to work so why bother. I am too fat anyway. It’s really hard for me to lose weight. I don’t have any willpower. The list goes on and on. I encourage you to think of all your most common excuses. Write them down and make a list. Then call yourself out on them. Excuses are just our own way of self-sabotage and they hold us back. If we keep using excuses to hold us back we will continue to stay stuck.
Ask yourself what it is that you want to change and WHY? Losing weight is not specific enough. Perhaps it’s that you want to feel better about your body or feel sexier in your skin. Maybe you want to fit into your clothes better or get into better physical shape. The more specific you are, the better. Once your intention is clear and you know what your WHY is, write it down and post it somewhere you will see everyday. For example: “I want to feel sexier in my skin and be more confident about my body.”
Get rid of the negative self-talk. Are you a perfectionist, always saying “I am not good enough”? Having a negative opinion about ourselves can have a huge impact on who we are and what we do. Before we can attempt to change our negative habits we need to love and accept ourselves just as we are, flaws and all. How can you choose to love yourself today?
Positive thoughts lead to positive actions. Ask yourself how do I WANT to feel? If you want to feel good then think good thoughts. When you put positive thoughts into the universe and follow through with positive actions you will see positive results. Begin each day with a loving positive thought about yourself and your life! “I accept myself and create peace in my mind and heart.”
Any lifestyle change you make to accomplish your goals will take time. In order to make positive changes that last a lifetime we must do it slowly. This requires patience.Everyone loses weight at different rates. If we give up or lose motivation we will never achieve our goals. It takes hard work and discipline, but it also takes time. Life is long, what’s the rush?
We all think that if we don’t lose weight or enough weight or even stick with our diet long enough that we are a failure. Failure is just an opportunity for growth. With every mistake comes a chance to learn. If you are struggling or having a hard time or find yourself giving up, return to your WHY and ask yourself if the risk is worth the reward. Is what your doing worth a little hard work, determination and letting go? Aren’t you worth it?
Unfortunately there is no such thing as a quick fix; you already have everything you need to know. With careful thought and loving reflection, you can feed yourself in a nourishing way. Working with your body rather than against it will bring you increased energy, stabilized weight and sustainable health.
Given half a chance, your body will balance out by itself, but this is only possible by getting out of the diet mentality and listening to what you truly need. Imagine taking all of the time you spend thinking about diets, food, fads and gimmicks and turning it inward, so that you can listen to your heart and inner wisdom. What are you going to do with all that extra time? Write to me and let me know!
I can’t believe another month has passed and April is here! I don’t know about you, but I am ready for Spring! After this cold and dreary winter Spring can’t get here fast enough. As I mentioned last month now is a great time to cleanse our bodies, minds and spirits. Think greens, raw fruits and vegetables and minimal processed foods.
There are two main colors of asparagus – white and green. White asparagus is not a separate variety; it is white because it is grown completely underground so that no chlorophyll develops. Green asparagus, which is either purely green or has green stalks with purple tinged leaves is sold in a range of sizes from very thin pencil asparagus to thick and juicy jumbo size. From a nutritional standpoint asparagus has a lot to offer. It is a good source of vitamin C, thiamin and riboflavin and an excellent source of folate. It also provides protein and fiber. Perhaps most importantly asparagus is high in cancer fighting antioxidants. Try them grilled or roasted.
Peas are an excellent source of Vitamin K, folic acid, and Vitamin B6, important for combating osteoporosis and atherosclerosis by reducing the buildup of homocysteine molecules. Peas are a good source of other B Vitamins as well, such as thiamin (vitamin B1), riboflavin (vitamin B2), and niacin (vitamin B3). These help regulate lipid, carbohydrate and protein levels. Peas contain a fair amount of Vitamin C, which is our body’s main antioxidant protection against viruses and diseases, and perhaps even some cancers. When Spring peas are fresh I like to throw them in my salad for extra crunch and sweetness.
Spring is the best time of year to eat spinach, a crop that loves warm days and cold, nearly frosty nights, which bring out its natural sugars. In addition to being a great source of vitamin C and folate, two nutrients that strengthen your immune system and ward off allergies, spinach is also rich in a compound called betaine, which has been found to boost exercise performance. And if you think only carrots can keep your eyesight healthy, think again. Spinach contains lutein and zeaxanthin, two phytochemicals that may help prevent age-related macular degeneration, one of the leading causes of blindness.
Sprouts of all varieties contain the building blocks of life in the form of vitamins, enzymes, amino acids and simple sugars. In their early growth state, sprouts are very easy to digest, allowing our bodies to access many wonderful nutrients. Recent research by the American Cancer Society has backed what holistic nutrition has known for years: that sprouts contain anti-cancer properties, high levels of active antioxidants, concentrated amounts of phytochemicals and significant amounts of vitamins A, C and D.
Radishes are extremely nutritious! As members of the cruciferous family of vegetables; radishes help our bodies fight cancer and aging. Along with anti-oxidants, radishes contain nearly a third of your daily recommended amount of vitamin C. They are low in fat and calories, and contain small amounts of fiber, iron and even calcium. Don’t forget about the leaves! Radish leaves contain more vitamin C, calcium and protein than radishes themselves. Toss the leaves into a pesto, stir-fry, or your next smoothie.
So there you have it, my five favorite foods for spring. When we eat foods that are local, fresh and in season, we help our bodies achieve balance. We help reduce our cravings and strengthen our immune systems. We help nourish the body with what it really wants and needs. Eating foods that are in season helps us get closer to achieving that optimum state of wellness and after all, isn’t that what we all want to achieve?
Health is a state of complete harmony of the body, mind, & spirit. When one is free of physical disabilities and mental distractions, the Gates of the soul open”- B.K.S Iyengar
March is upon us, which means spring is right around the corner, thank goodness. This past winter has been particularly harsh on our bodies (and if you like the sunshine and warmth maybe your spirit too). During winter our bodies tend to crave warm comforting foods and it is natural for us to store fat.
As the end of winter approaches we might be feeling a bit “heavier” then usual and our bodies may be depleted in energy. Well, I’m here to tell you that this is part of our bodies natural way of being. Instead of criticizing ourselves for putting on those extra winter pounds, let’s set a goal for ourselves to enter spring feeling replenished and restored.
To cleanse your body, give it a break from rich and complicated foods by either cleansing or fasting for a short period of time. Cleansing means paring down your food to just simple fruits and vegetables, lots of water and perhaps whole grains. Fasting means limiting most foods and drinking lots of water, fresh vegetable and fruit juices, teas and soups. Cleansing and fasting can sharpen your concentration, help you gain insight and promote spiritual awareness. It can also bring improved immune function and better digestion.
We all know how important exercise is in order to achieve a healthy lifestyle, but movement is also a great way to cultivate more energy. Exercise stimulates adrenaline in our body. This leads to major shift in our energy. If you’re looking to increase your energy and shed extra pounds start moving your body NOW!
During winter we tend to get more dehydrated. This can manifest in many ways, but most often it can lead to a decrease in energy or even mild hunger. Making sure you drink enough water is essential for nourishing yourself and balancing the body.
Most of us are sleep deprived. When our bodies are tired and in need of rest we experience more stress and our blood sugar levels fluctuate very easily. This causes our body to be depleted of energy. Many of us feel guilty for taking the time we need to rest and restore, however it essential for our health. Most of us need at least 7-8 hours of sleep a night to help balance our energy levels throughout the day.
As you know I believe that we cannot have a healthy body without having a positive mindset. Use this opportunity to throw away negative thoughts and habits you’ve been harboring that no longer serve you. A clean, open heart will allow you to receive all the good that awaits you each and every day. If your heart and mind are cluttered, there is no room for life’s gifts and surprises to enter.
While we transition between seasons our bodies naturally want to become more balanced. Cleansing our bodies and minds, even for a short period of time, can have a tremendous impact on our overall well-being. This can be overwhelming or seem scary if you are unsure what to do. If you are in need of support or simply curious how you can cleanse the body then contact me for more info!
Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” - Rumi
For some reason February always reminds me of love. It’s probably because Valentine’s Day is right around the corner, or maybe it’s because winter has been so cold that I need something warm to focus on. Lately I have been reminded of how important it is to truly love myself, and I’m not just talking about my self-care practice (that is also an essential part of being healthy). When I talk about love, I mean whole-hearted, unconditional love.
What I have learned from my personal experience, and in working with my clients, is that LOVE needs to be the focus of our work as we learn to let go of our “un-wanted” eating habits and cultivate a nourishing relationship between our mind, body and spirit. No matter how much we try to improve our relationship with food or constantly obsess about what to eat and what NOT to eat, one thing I know for certain, food is secondary. If we don’t learn to LOVE and ACCEPT ourselves exactly as we are, then we will never be truly nourished.
All you need to do is ask yourself; how do I love myself? If I truly love myself would I ________________ (eat that, say that, do that).
Love yourself and every part of you. Love your strengths and let them shine. Look in the mirror everyday and say to yourself “I love you unconditionally”
Are you a perfectionist, always saying “I am not good enough”? Having a negative opinion about ourselves can have a huge impact on who we are and what we do. Next time you catch yourself saying something negative about yourself ask, would I speak to a child like that?
Be aware of what you are feeling. When you are JOYFUL feel it. When you are DEPRESSED feel it. When you are AFRAID ask why? Don’t try to cover up or blur emotions. Ask yourself how you feel often. Share your thoughts and feelings with others.
Practice generosity and patience with yourself. Change can be scary. We can’t expect to change our negative habits and life long patterns overnight. Everything is a practice. Once you let go of the outcome your expectations become limitless.
Learn to forgive yourself when you make a mistake. Everyone is a work in progress. With every mistake made comes an opportunity for growth and learning.
Practice the art of letting go. Practice meditation to release you of your anxieties. Quiet the mind and clean it out of all toxic thoughts. Focus your mind on “I am” instead of “I’m not enough”.
Express gratitude for the person that you are. Cultivate an appreciation for your strengths and gifts. Feel a sense of gratitude that you are alive and well, and fully capable of making a difference in your life. Practicing gratitude allows us to feel better. When we practice gratitude we focus on the positive.
Dream BIG and make it happen. When we focus our minds on what we really want and fill ourselves with positive affirmations and thoughts our dreams will be achieved. Every moment that you live is a joy because you are expressing yourself fully.
Do things just because you want to. Have fun and cultivate JOY. What brings you pleasure? Make a list of all the things you want to do and start doing them.
Nourish yourself with healthy food, water, and regular exercise. Give yourself enough down time to rest and restore. Set an intention to start loving and respecting your body and follow through with it everyday.
Learn to see the beauty in everyday. Be present and observe what is around you. Flowers blooming, trees growing, children playing, laughter. When you can appreciate the beauty in the everyday you will begin to see it within yourself.
Even if you just choose one of these and focus on making that your new goal for the month, I promise you will start to feel better. When you start to feel better about yourself you will be able to ask yourself; How am I loving myself today?Read More
True life is lived when tiny changes occur” -Leo Tolstoy
Many of us start the New Year making resolutions. We vow to eat healthier, go to the gym, quit smoking, spend less money, get organized… etc. So why is it, that only 8% of us are able to stick with these resolutions? We start the year with great intentions, but then we quickly relapse into old habits. Why is it so hard to keep those New Year’s resolutions?
First of all you need to understand that you are not a failure.
Don’t beat yourself up or tell yourself that you are no good. In order to truly be successful at anything we want to achieve we must get rid of the “I’m not good enough” and “you never do anything right” talk.
Ask yourself what you want to change and how you want to feel. Then write down your positive intentions and keep them in a visible place, like taped to your bedroom mirror, the bathroom mirror or refrigerator.
Get to the source of whatever is keeping you in a rut. Are you in a stressful relationship that causes you to eat a pint of Ben & Jerry’s every night? Are you stressed at your job and feel too tired to exercise after work? If you don’t tackle the root of the behavior, it will be much harder to accomplish your goal.
Be clear about what your life would look like once you achieve your goal. If you resolve to go to the gym more, how will this benefit you? Visualize yourself feeling better, looking better and having more confidence. Get connected to the result of your action, and you will be more likely to stick with your plan.
Share your resolutions with friends and family. Hold each other accountable for achieving your goals. If you want to go to the gym more, have a friend call you two or three times a week to check on you or invite them to join you.
Reward yourself with every little accomplishment. If your intention is to lose weight and you lose 1 pound a week, pamper yourself with a massage or a healthy treat.
Practice a loving and forgiving relationship with yourself. If you are unable to reach your goal forgive yourself and try again. Encourage yourself, the way you would a child. If after trying another time you are unable to succeed maybe you need to set a more realistic and attainable goal.
I really encourage you to think about what it is that you WANT. If you find yourself getting discouraged and thinking “it’s never going to change, so why bother” that is exactly what will happen. Positive thoughts lead to positive actions. Take a moment and ask yourself, “What can I be doing right now to feel better?”
Breath is the bridge which connects life to consciousness, which unites your body to your thoughts.” – Thich Nhat Hanh
The holiday season can often cause us to feel stressed and overwhelmed. According to some recent statistics:
Feeling stressed or overwhelmed can sometimes lead us to make unhealthy decisions around our food and neglect our self-care practices. While I know all too well how easy those habits are, my goal for you this month is to reduce your stress and focus on the excitement of holiday time, so that you are able to take better care of yourself.
When we are in a high stress mode our body shuts down the digestive process, not too mention the disruption it causes to our emotional and spiritual state. Slowing down is the key to healthy eating and reducing our stress. It helps our body digest better and burn more fat! Some ways to help yourself get slow are practicing yoga, being out in nature or simply focusing on your breathing.
Eating mindfully means we are paying attention to what we are eating. We are aware of all our sensations and what is happening in our body. It also includes eating without distractions and enjoying our food! Begin by taking a breath before you eat, say a word of thanks, smell your food and really experience the textures and sensations in your mouth.
Being prepared helps to reduce our stress and anxiety. When we are prepared we worry less about running out of time and are able to focus on staying present. Some ways to help prepare for the holidays are to do your shopping early, never go to a party on an empty stomach, bring a healthy dish with you and don’t over extended yourself and be afraid to say no.
As you know from last months blog, “Cultivating an “attitude of gratitude” has been linked to better health, sounder sleep, higher long-term satisfaction with life, less anxiety and depression, and kinder behavior toward others, including romantic partners.” The holidays are a great time to begin a daily gratitude practice. It will not only improve your health, but enhance your life. Begin with a gratitude journal and write 3-5 things you are grateful for everyday!
We all know that exercise is a key ingredient to any health and wellness plan. It can help you lose weight, reduce your stress, enhance your immune system and make you feel better about yourself. I encourage you to find a movement that you enjoy such as; dance, yoga, walking, running, spin class, boxing, martial arts etc. If you don’t have an exercise routine start one NOW!
All you need is LOVE. In order to lose weight and reduce your stress the answer is always love. You need to making loving yourself your #1 priority. For many of us self-care is considered taboo. We think we are being selfish when we spend time spoiling ourselves. Well I am here to tell you that nourishment is the best holiday gift you can give yourself.
OK, so there they are, some simple ways to help you have a relaxing and enjoyable holiday season. Remember that stress and anxiety often cause us to over think and stay “stuck in our minds”. In order to help us feel more peaceful and at ease we must slow down, practice gratitude and try to nourish ourselves everyday.